Can't Orgasm from Penetration alone - YOU ARE TOTALLY NORMAL!
A woman enters a sex shop, she is unsure what to get or what the different vibrators are for. The salesperson approaches and gives her some tips. A pretty regular occurrence in my store, one little fact I like to let women know is this - around 40% of women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, that penetration alone just doesn’t work for them. I can’t tell you how many times I have had responses along the lines of , “yep that’s me” or “oh I thought it was just me” or “ I thought there was something wrong with me”. It is more common than most women would think and that fact that we still don’t talk about sex enough openly means many women still do think something is wrong with them and that they may never get to experience great orgasms and that is just bloody sad if you ask me.
Movies and porn have us believing that orgasms are easily achieved and that all you need is some good thrust action and its game one, fireworks, head thrown back, screaming orgasms.. Well in real life it takes work for most of us to achieve this.. A study done a few years ago by The Journal of Sex and Maritial Therapy found that only 18% of women can cum by penetration alone.. That's definitely not the norm then is it. And another 36 percent said they didn’t need clitoral stimulation but it did enhance the orgasm. The clitoris is the female sex organ, not the vagina. It is where all our nerve endings are so it makes sense that this is where all the pleasure comes from or at least the majority of it anyway.
So really the point of this blog was to let women know they are not broken or weird , that they are actually the majority not the minority… and maybe encourage us to talk more, share with our girlfriends this article, share your tips and tricks of what works for you in the bedroom.. Sex is not a one size fits all, we all like different things and get aroused by different things and for those of us still learning what those are education is the key to unlocking a world of fun and pleasure.
Here are a few great products for clitoral stimulation, whether alone or with a partner.