Not feeling ready for full-on anal sex? We've gathered some warm-up exercises for you to warm up to the big game.
Let's face it the first time you have a finger in your ass, it feels like you have a finger in your ass!! What would you expect it to feel like?
In actual fact, the first 5, 10, possibly 20 times, it feels just like you have a finger in your ass. At a certain point, after many attempts if everything goes right, it'll feel like you have a finger in your ass accompanied by a spontaneous enhanced mind blowing orgasm.
It's hard to know, because everybody's different, and that includes the individual's skill level. "So many women have bad first time experiences and never want to do it again".
But if your adventurous and feel ready to experiment in backdoor pleasure, here are some things you need to know about.
Clean things up. The key to anal play is comfort do whatever you need to help with any lingering anxiety. Before any kind of sexual activity involving the butt, clean things up. "Yes I mean up there". Invest in an anal douche, you will save yourself time cleaning things up in a messy situation.
It shouldn't hurt. This is where lube comes in. Prior to any anal activity, you should be full aroused, and use lot's of lubricant "Relax your muscles, and breathe".
Start small. The whole point of anal play is to keep it simple before working your way up. "To prepare a bottom for sex play, start with fingers, tongue, or a very small sex toy designed for butt play.
The person doing it should err on the shallow side. Everything that goes in should be "just the tip." The nerve endings you're trying to stimulate are in the anus, hence the moniker "rimming" and not all the way up there, which is generally the painful part and also the part that makes you feel like you need to take a huge dump.
There shouldn't be any rapid-fire movement immediately. Vigorous jamming of fingers anywhere should not happen immediately. "So much of sex is rough and fast especially in porn, but anal play has to be prepped.
Communication is key. The only way to know what works and what doesn't is to be totally honest with you partner about what they're doing. We stress the importance of always being tuned in to how the other is feeling and being vocal about your preferences.
It's not dirty. The anus and the lower part of the rectum actually have very little fecal material in them, which means it tends to not be nearly as dirty as you think.
It feels best when there's some additional stimulation going on. Vaginal, clitoral, nipple whatever feels best for you. While some women only need butt play, most women can't cum from anal stimulation alone. "The anal part is something that's an accent. It adds to the overall experience.
If you try it a few times and hate it, don't keep trying it because you think it'll eventually be tolerable. "Assuming you have a considerate lover who's invested in you feeling good, I think you'd know within the first five times whether you like it or not, "I've encountered women who hated receiving oral sex initially but love it now, and it was because they were self-conscious. It depends on your levels of inhibition, your feelings about your partner, your feelings about your body. If all these things are good to go, and you just don't like the sensation, you'll know it pretty fast."
Tip: Make sure your partner doesn't put anything that's been in your anus in your vagina afterward's.
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