All sex is good sex!! "Yes" in the beginning. When your relationship is fresh, new positions or novel settings are enough to keep you both interested and satisfied. But as the years pass on, it’s all too common to find yourself stuck with a sex life worn edge-less by routine and complacency. Fortunately, things don’t have to stay that way.
Here are some tips that'll get you & your partner worked up to bring back the spark in your sex life!!
The Talk
“One person’s wet dream is another’s wet blanket,” If you pull out your new moves in the moment, her startled reaction may frighten you both away from dirty sex for another few years. Discuss your ideas and turn on's before you hit the lights.
Start the conversation over a glass of wine at dinner or in some other setting where you’re both comfortable and relaxed. It might be easier to begin this talk with relatively tame fantasies or role-playing ideas stuff that will ease you both into the idea of new experiences.
It may also help to ask her what she’s into first. That way, you’re making it about her desires as well as your own.
When it’s your turn to share, be positive and confident about what you’re into. If you make a big deal about asking or you look terrified once you make the request, that could freak your girl out or make her nervous.
Also, be clear that you’re not expecting this every time you do it. Only once in a while as a change of pace.
“Most people can cope with doing kinky things consistently but irregularly.“Few want to do it every single session.”
And, above all else, don’t force things. If you’ve told her you’re interested in something and she says it’s not for her, putting up a fight won't change her mind. On the other hand, being cool with her refusal might lead her to rethink things and give it a shot.
